Written by Yasmin Gibson, Infant & Toddler Sleep Consultant & Founder of Self Settled

There’s a lot of talk around sleep training - and just as much confusion. So let’s break it down simply: sleep training is about helping your baby learn to fall asleep (and resettle between sleep cycles) on their own. That’s it. We’re gently guiding them to develop healthy, independent sleep habits so they can get the rest they need to grow, and so you can get some well-deserved rest, too.

Sleep training doesn’t mean leaving your baby to cry alone. In fact, there are many different approaches — from more structured methods to gentle, responsive ones. The key is finding the style that suits your baby’s age and temperament, and that aligns with your parenting values.

At its heart, sleep training is about supporting your baby to feel safe, confident, and secure in their own sleep space. It’s not about perfection. It’s about creating a calm, consistent rhythm that helps the whole family thrive.

A Friendly Reminder Before You Begin: 

Consistency > Perfection

If there’s one mantra to keep in mind on your sleep training journey, it’s this: Consistency beats perfection. Always.

There will be ups and downs — that’s completely normal. But by showing up with love and staying consistent, your baby will begin to understand what to expect at bedtime. And that sense of predictability helps them feel safe and supported.

You don’t have to follow a rigid routine or get everything “right.” None of us are perfect. But when we show up with patience, warmth, and a plan — even a flexible one — we make huge strides.

Quickfire Q&A: Common Questions About Sleep Training

When is the right age to start sleep training?

You can begin gently sleep training from around three months of age, but it really depends on your baby’s individual development. Many families find that the sweet spot is between four and six months, when babies are often more ready to learn how to self-settle.

What’s the earliest safe age to start?

Not before 3 months. In those early weeks, it’s all about nurturing your baby, offering comfort, and introducing gentle routines. Sleep training techniques are best introduced once your baby is around three months and older.

Is it ever too late to sleep train?

Not at all. You can sleep train toddlers — even older children. The principles stay the same: it’s more about consistencythan age.

How long does sleep training take?

You might start to see changes in just three to seven days. Some babies respond within the first few nights. By two weeks, many families feel a big shift. If it’s taking longer, it’s worth checking in on things like inconsistencies, over-tiredness, or hunger — small tweaks often make the biggest difference.

What if my baby still feeds at night?

No problem. You can absolutely sleep train and still feed overnight. Just keep those feeds calm and consistent, and gently resettle your baby afterwards.

How do I reduce or drop night feeds without distress?

Go slow. Gradually reduce the time spent feeding and resettle gently. Over time, your baby will adapt. No abrupt changes needed.

How do I know if my baby is hungry or just waking out of habit?

Here’s a quick tip: if your baby takes a full, active feed, they’re likely hungry. If they’re just lightly sucking and drifting off again, it might be more about comfort or habit.

Sleep training isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution, and it definitely doesn’t have to mean tough love. At the end of the day, it’s about tuning into your child’s needs, finding a rhythm that works for your family, and trusting that you know your baby best.

So take a deep breath — you’ve got this.